Nobody is as perfect a well-wisher for your child as you, irrespective of whether or not you know how to parent. So won’t a little guidebook of how to give your child the best of you be a little helpful?
Although none of us is perfect, we care about our children and want to give them our best. Here is some of the best advice available to help you improve your relationship with your children.
Lend Your Child a Listening Ear
Often, we are so caught up with our work and other stressors in life that we forget that our children need to be heard too. It is something which happens with even the best of us.
So, the best thing you can do is to make a deliberate effort to listen to your child. Keep away all distractions, including your thoughts, when you are home, and ensure that you make your child your priority at that time. Ask them questions about what they fear, what makes them anxious, or simply about how their day was. Initially, they might even ignore the questions, but when they’ll see the love, they’ll open up.
Listen to what they have to say without thinking about your response. Observe their body language, pick up on cues and try to make eye contact with them while you’re talking to show then that you really are paying attention.
Set a Good Example
You, whether you want to be or not, are the primary role model for your children. Therefore, you should NEVER do anything in front of your children that you wouldn’t want them to do. It is as simple as that!
If you find yourself behaving in a way you don’t want your child to mimic, change immediately! Children mimic their parents–“Monkey see Monkey do.”
Teach Them How (and How Not) to React
We are all human, and we do get angry. But losing your cool in front of your child simply means that you are telling them that this is how he/she has to behave when things get tough. It can be as simple as arguing with the bill collector, or as major has yelling at your spouse. You should remember that you don’t have to exhibit angry behaviour in front of them.
Even if you accidentally happen to lose it sometime, apologize and take responsibility for your anger. Teach them how to solve situations calmly. You model healthy behaviour this way.
We cannot know everything on our own, and therefore, it is best to learn from experiences of other parents with the help of the best parenting audiobooks. Learn parenting skills and strategies to ensure that you raise a good, responsible child. These tips can work wonders if implied seriously. Parenting is a game learnt best from experience!